Husband stays with me all night long for online dating
Oralist: My 32-year-old store manager, Yun Fei, married my husband Xiaokang in July 1997.
It was an extraordinary experience-we were in the same office for 3 years, from colleagues to lovers, and finally came together.
When he was newly married, Xiaokang was a “good man” who loved his family. He even occasionally had entertainment at night and never returned home after 22 o’clock.
I have been very fortunate for such a marriage.
After the in-laws moved in, their lives in the world ended before the Chinese New Year in 1999. Xiaokang suddenly talked to me and said that his parents wanted to come to Shanghai from Changzhou’s hometown to celebrate Chinese New Year.
I agreed without saying a word.
A few days later, Xiaokang’s parents and Xiaokang’s younger brother lived together. From their large bag and small bag stand, I vaguely “rolled out”-sure enough, this stay is more than 3 years.
Life in the two-person world ended like this, which made me a little uncomfortable.
Since I was a child, I was a girl with “cleanliness”, and my small family suddenly became a big family. Even if I still clean every day, it doesn’t help.
His parents do not cook and do no housework.
So after work every day, I have to “fight” to finish a family of 5 meals, wait for washing and cleaning, cleaning is done, it is often more than 10 pm-I was already pregnant at the time.
Every time I look at Xiaokang’s embarrassing and sorry look, I can only hold all my grievances in my heart.
In the spring of 2000, her daughter was born.
But less than 3 months after giving birth, I resumed my previous weight loss.
I went to work on the first day after my maternity leave. My colleagues were surprised that I was “slimer”
than before. I had to pretend that I was joking about how to lose weight successfully. In fact, only I knew it.Rice, now a child who cries day and night is added, it is strange not to be thin!
Every time I go back to my parents’ home, I see that I am getting thinner and thinner, and my mother always has to hang on for a while.
And I can only pass the same “reason”.
Unfortunately, Heaven didn’t seem to see my toil.
(Yun Fei handed me the business card, which was the head of an avant-garde brand store-which made it difficult for me to associate her with the traditional “little daughter-in-law” image.
“At that time, I was such a dual identity. Good friends all said, how can there be young girls in Shanghai who do all the housework of the extended family!
They persuaded me to live separately, and I gently talked to Xiao Kang twice, but never saw him act.
“) The family’s” Civil War “was frequent, and he began to grow up all night, and his daughter grew up, but the harmonious atmosphere at home disappeared-of course, it has nothing to do with the child.
When he first arrived in Shanghai, Xiaokang found a job for his brother, which made his parents very satisfied.
Within a few months, his brother was fired by the company.
Watching his 20-year-old son hang around all day, Xiaokang’s parents often complained or even quarreled with each other-sensitive I can certainly hear that they were just “referring to slang and scolding locusts”, which put pressure on Xiaokang.
This has a great impact on the well-being of the well-off. Since the fall of 2000, the frequency of outbreaks through the “Civil War” has become higher and higher, and the well-off has also become more and more late. From the initial four to five o’clock to ninety o’clockAnd sometimes not returning all night.
This has never happened before.
Even in the face of my daughter and me, Xiaokang lost his patience.
Every evening, I waited for Xiaokang to go home in a dazzling manner-after all, in this quarreling home, only my daughter and he could give me a smiley face.
But every time, when the food was cold, he was still missing. There was only one call: “I’m not coming back for dinner, don’t wait for me.
“I still remember clearly that Xiaokang’s first night did not return.
On a weekend in December of that year, I waited until the whole family fell asleep, and Xiaokang hadn’t returned, not even a phone call.
I have no sleepiness, watching the sleeping child alone in a daze.
Seeing the extension at 1 o’clock in the middle of the night, he still couldn’t see him. He didn’t answer the phone. He called the scintillator several times but didn’t hear back.
I’m so stubborn that I tirelessly over and over that number and want him to go home early.
After half an hour of dialing, his voice finally came from the other end of the phone. “You’re sick of it, keep calling, hitting, hitting!
“Xiaokang’s tone was stiff as never before. After this sentence, he quickly disconnected the line.
I was even more sleepless. I hurriedly added a coat to my thermal underwear and didn’t even put on my socks. I put on a pair of shoes and waited for him by the garden in the community. In the middle of December, everyone acknowledged that I was sleeping well in the warmth, and only I stood stupidly in the middle of cold wind and my husband went home.
I’ve always been a timid person, but I didn’t know the courage that night, and I didn’t feel scared at all.
2 o’clock, 3 o’clock . My two eyes kept taking turns to notice the iron gate on the left and the iron gate on the right. Once I heard the sound of a car outside, I immediately rushed forward.
Until 4 o’clock in the morning, I couldn’t stand the cold, and returned home coldly.
As soon as I fell asleep, I heard the sound of Xiaokang opening the door, and the alarm clock told me clearly that it was 6:20 in the morning.
I didn’t dare to speak loudly, but asked aggrievedly: “Where have you been? I’ve been waiting for you outside, frozen to death!
Xiaokang’s eyes were full of impatience, so coldly so-called: “Ask me so much?
I didn’t ask you to wait, something went wrong!
“My heart broke all of a sudden.
(“Spoken” that day, Yun Fei put on a very delicate makeup, but at that time, tears had made her look pale.
“In fact, my daughter is most reluctant. Since she learned to speak, the language environment around her has been full of ‘vicious’ quarrels. Even dad doesn’t like her anymore. I’m really afraid that she will have psychological problems in the long-term meeting.
“) I can’t stand his indifference, I have chatted on the Internet just like that, every day . Every year for more than a year, I tirelessly take care of this big family, on the other side I have to put up with XiaokangFrosty.
I didn’t dare to go back to my parents’ house, for fear I could not help crying.
I once secretly went to see a psychiatrist alone and listened to my talk. The doctor said that I was too stressed and was not mentally ill. “Heart disease still needs a heart medicine doctor and talk to her husband well.
The doctor said lightly, I believe that no one could understand my situation at the time.
Every time I want to calm down with Xiaokang’s personality, I always get his cold words.
After sadness and despair, I started chatting online.
Before that, I always laughed at a few “networms” in the office and said that online chat was boring.
In those years, for the Gu family, I almost gave up contact with all my friends, and the only “Dead Party” has also gone abroad to marry, rarely contacted-in order not to let the spirit collapse, I must resolve the depression in my heart.
In this mentality, the second time I used QQ to chat, I randomly found him with the net name “Marmot”.
”Groundhog” is the same age as Xiaokang, and I was particularly impressed by the first chat.
I remember the first sentence I asked him: “Do you play Mahjong?
He replied, “That’s a waste of life.
“Maybe in the subconscious, I always think that Xiaokang started to change by playing mahjong with his customers, so his answer moved me at once. Instinctively, I had a good impression on him.
Gradually, we have more and more topics. A few days later, “Marmot” suddenly raised and wanted to hear my voice.
I agreed quickly and called him.
However, he did not leave his number to him.
So I have a “virtual friend”.
He is getting more and more from “virtual” to “real”. I am even more painful by phone. Repeatedly, I finally no longer shed tears for Xiaokang’s late return.
Every time my daughter fell asleep, I turned on the computer and talked to “Marmot”.
“Groundhog” never said bad things about Xiaokang, but just persuaded me to relax.
Two months later, “Marmot” suddenly sent an e-mail saying that he loved me, loved my kindness and tenderness, and said that a good woman like me should not carry such a heavy burden.
(The online dating stories all seem to have the same beginnings as girls who didn’t believe in the Internet, but ended up in the virtual love.
But Yun Fei insisted that her motives were different.
“When I went online, I wanted to heal myself. I was afraid I would go crazy.
So when I talked to him at first, I just regarded him as a ‘psychologist’.
“) If I insisted on living separately, if I had a few friends to chat with-maybe the ending would be completely different.
I consider myself a woman with a very traditional mindset. I cannot have a husband and a lover.
Every day now, I live in contradiction-secretly when contacting him, like a thief; but every time I make up my mind to stop contacting, I will immediately recover my previous sadness, crying every night.
Marmot and I are married, not to mention I have a daughter, a poor little girl whom I can only rely on. Just two days ago, I sent an e-mail to Marmot, suggesting that he would only be a good friend to talk, and never go beyond that moral line.
But the moment I sent the letter, I found that I was more painful and uncomfortable than before. For a few days, I had no God.